Kite Fighting & The BEST Indian Festival

You stand on a 3rd story rooftop and take a slow look around. As far as you can see in every direction, over miles of roofs, there are thousands of small paper kites flying through the air. You hear the celebratory whoops of someone who just won a kite fight. You watch the smiles spread on everyone’s faces as new and veteran flyers throw their kites to the wind. This is Uttarayan.

Wende and I just got back from Ahmedabad, the largest city of Gujarat with a population of 6 million. We had gone to visit a friend of ours from the hospital who grew up in Ahmedabad – he told us that we couldn’t miss the city’s celebration of Uttarayan – the kite flying festival. While other cities throughout India celebrate the festival, Ahmedabad is known for having the most elaborate celebrations, to the point of everything shutting down on January 14th (except the kite stalls and restaurants of course).

Our friend was right. Uttarayan was incredible! It was by far, our most unique, fun, and memorable experience in India. Wende and I have already said to each other, whenever we come back to India (in at least 15 years…) we will make sure to come back in time for the kite flying of Ahmedabad 😀

To give you a little background, there are two things celebrated through the festival on January 14th: 1) Uttarayan is a harvest festival that celebrates the turning of winter into summer, 2) Makar Sankranti is the transition of the zodiac calendar into the cycle of Capricorn, which is supposed to start with the winter solstice. You may wonder, if this is supposed to all be about Winter solstice, why is it celebrated on January 14th (and not December 22nd this year)? Well, apparently there are a few different ways to measure astrological timing, and one specific method is used for determining the date of festivals. This method just happens to fail at accounting for the tilt of the earth, leading to some calendar inconsistencies.

It’s a bit of a mystery how kites got wrapped up in the celebrations of this Hindu festival. Some sources say that kite flying was initially a form of sport for kings and royalty that was later picked up by the lay people. Others site an influence from kite flying in Muslim culture, which would account for the fact that Gujarat (which borders the Islamic country of Pakistan) is the Uttarayan, kite-flying, hub of the country. The city of Ahmedabad actually hosts an International Kite Festival (IKF) around the time of Uttarayan that attracts professional kite flyers from all over the world. Wende and I got to stop by, but sadly we missed all of the professional giant kite flyers who had come through on the 11th. I had found out about the International Kite Festival online, but when I asked my friend Paresh if he had attended he said, “Why would I attend? I celebrate the wonderful day with my friends and family in our neighborhood!” After observing the family’s festivities, I can understand why they would prefer it over the tourist attraction of the IKF 😀

But no matter how kite flying got started, in the city of Ahmedbad, kites are now ubiquitous. In the days leading up to January 14th, the streets are lined with temporary stalls meeting all of your kite flying needs. Kites and kite line are the main products, but for those little ones too small to fly their own kite, the stalls also sell small balloons. The parents will tie the balloon to a reel, letting the tots join in the flying festivities 🙂

The kite of choice for most Gujaratis is a called a “Patang” or Indian paper fighter kite. It’s a simple paper kite made out of tissue paper and a few wooden supports. They’re cheap, disposable, light enough to fly in zero wind, and called fighter kites for a reason. When I first heard of people fighting kites, I thought of them ramming kites into one another trying to knock the other out of the sky (which would take an awful lot of control). Instead, “kite fighting” is all about the string.

One of the contraptions you see out in preparation for the 14th, are these big metal spinning racks of neon. The devices are used to create “Manjha” or fighter line for flying the kites. The process:

  • Choose line in various thicknesses (chosen based on the size of the kite)
  • Run the line through a concoction of flour (for thickening), bright neon colors, and a powder of glass particles
  • The line is then wound up on these large metal frames to dry in the sun
  • Reel the line onto a spool, and you are ready to fly!

The term kite fighting describes when two kites strings cross each other in midair. Their lines begin to rub against one another as each person tries to keep their kite afloat, and the glass particles in each line begin to cut away at the strings. Whoever’s line is strongest cuts through and releases the losers kite to slowly drift down to a rooftop below. The winners let out hoots of triumph, and the fallen kite will find a new life when someone else finds it and flies it.

While the Manjha is beautiful to look at and very effective at cutting other kite lines, it is also very effective at cutting your hands. You’ll notice veteran kite flyers with fingers taped up in white sports tape to allow maximum speed kite reeling without the nasty paper cuts that come along with it. Wende and I each got a few small cuts, but apparently not enough to be impressive. Our friend Paresh told us that when he was younger, him and all of his friends would come to school bragging about how many cuts they had gotten the day before – “See, I have 7 cuts!”

Notice the racks for Manjha in the right corner, and the bowls of neon string concoction in the middle along with spools of finished line

Notice the racks for Manjha in the right corner, and the bowls of neon string concoction in the middle along with spools of finished line

After a morning full of kite flying, we took a break for a traditional Gujarati Uttarayan lunch. Since the festival is a harvest festival, they celebrate with a dish called Undhiyu, which incorporates all of the vegetables currently available to harvest (which in the middle of January is a surprisingly large number). Undhiyu comes from the Gujarati word for upside down, because the diverse vegetable dish used to be cooked in an earthen pot that was then turned upside down, placed in the ground, and cooked with fire from above. I can’t speak for every Undhiyu, but the dish that Paresh’s mother prepared was one of the best dishes I’ve had in India. I had seconds, thirds, and then I even had a little of the leftovers along with dinner.

After lunch we headed out to visit Paresh’s wife and new baby. This gave us a chance to drive through Ahmedabad and the surrounding country, observing the flying festivities from the ground. Kite fight victims littered the ground and kite lines hung from many of the trees. The hanging, glass coated strings are so prevalent that the kite vendors also sell metal guards that attach onto your scooter/motorcycle. Apparently the lines are quite dangerous (especially for choking), and the guards help to push the string up and over the drivers head. As we made our way to Nirali’s home, I was able to observe a neat phenomenon. You could tell the population density of an area by the number of kites flying over a neighborhood, and as we made our way into the country we passed fewer and fewer flocks of kites.

After a lovely visit at Nirali’s we made our way back to the city for the capstone event. We thought that as the day came to an end, so would the activities, but we were wrong. Apparently a few years back the custom of releasing imported Chinese lanterns in the evening caught on, and now they are just as omni-present as kites during the day. As the sun begins to set, the sky becomes dotted with the light of paper lanterns from rooftops across the city. Within an hour the sky is filled with lanterns everywhere… at first glance it looks like a typical night sky, full of stars. But then you start to notice that the stars are drifting slowly towards the west. You realize that each of those lanterns, from every rooftop, represents a family just like your own, standing on their roof, celebrating together, loving each other, and releasing a lantern together hoping that 2015 is the best year yet.

Fireworks are fired off, hours pass, and the number of lanterns begin to diminish. But as the lanterns go down, the night flyers come out! Dance music pumps from one of the rooftops (accompanied by some club quality disco lights), and the beat bumps while everyone releases fresh kites to the wind. At night, everyone has to use white kites because otherwise they’re impossible to see as they soar up hundreds of feet into the air. The wind picked up at night, and Wende and I were able to get our first solo kites flying (after a full day of enthusiastic attempts).



After one of our­ most wonderful days in India, Wende and I were left wondering, “How can we bring this holiday back to America?” The kite flying, the fireworks, the lanterns, the fun! At first we thought about just celebrating Uttarayan in America… but January isn’t exactly prime time for kite flying. Then we considered just shifting the date of celebration to some other arbitrary day… but it wouldn’t be fair to the festival to celebrate it on a random, non-symbolic day.

What we’ve decided, is that instead of trying to bring Uttarayan back to America, we’re going to try to twist a current holiday into something new. From now on, 4th of July will not only be celebrated with fireworks, hotdogs, and veggie burgers. It will now also include Indian Fighter Kites, paper lanterns, and some of the terrific spirit we experienced on January 14th, 2015.

Next independence day, if you hear someone whooping in the distance, you might have just heard a kite fight.­


*** Witness the magic of Uttarayan***



Is Pregnancy Sacred?

When asked by a friend: “Do you think pregnancy is sacred?” my thoughts were conflicted and very tied to my ideas about parenting. I’m experiencing pregnancy through the lens of planning to raise this child, while my friend wants to be a surrogate for someone else but never have her own children (but sadly one can’t become a surrogate without already successfully delivering a baby). Her question launched us into a lively Google Hangout discussion and brought up the thoughts shared below.

One of the reasons I wanted to have a biological child rather than adopting was to get the unique experience of breastfeeding. When planning for the birth of #BabyOslock, Austin and I are reading about mindfulness and finding healthcare facilities that offer water births. In general I view pregnancy and childbirth as natural life events that one might go through. Despite these opinions, I find labeling pregnancy or motherhood as sacred problematic. The cultural baggage and associations between motherhood and fatherhood are extremely different with motherhood feeling more related to actual child rearing than fatherhood. Labeling motherhood as sacred seems like a way of positively reinforcing this difference, making parenthood something more so experienced by women, and thus reinforcing traditional gender roles that already permeate discussions of parenting.

My expectations for Austin and myself as parents involve us being equal partners who spend similar amounts of time caring for #BabyOslock. I realize that I’m privileged to have a partner to parent with and especially one that I can realistically expect to be an equal caregiver. The fact that most women in heterosexual relationships cannot expect this from their male partner even if they want it, however, pervades every book we’ve read about parenting, even the ones from feminist sources (like Gender Neutral Parenting or Redefining Girly – both written by stay-at-home moms). While we enjoyed both of these books, especially Gender Neutral Parenting, they both assumed at least one parent would get to stay home and raise the child, giving parents way more influence over their child’s surroundings than parents who will be reliant on childcare.

The books and blog articles we’ve read so far are almost entirely written from the assumption that a mother will take significant time off and that she will be the primary caregiver – they also seem to assume that this division is positive, natural, or inevitable. These assumptions are what I find most problematic. As a feminist, I want women and men to be empowered to make a variety of choices: primarily be an earner, primarily be a caregiver, be 50% earner 50% caregiver, or somewhere in the middle. While I think we do need to analyze which scenario occurs most often and how cultural expectations lead to these outcomes, I don’t intrinsically have a problem with a woman being the primary caregiver / a man being the primary earner. I just want the alternative family structures to be included more, especially in conventional books like the ones mentioned below.

What To Expect When You’re Expecting – is a book the size of a Bible. It’s huge and extremely detailed, though with bullets and headings that allow for skimming to sections that you feel inclined to read about. When Austin looked at the chapters in the front of this 614-page book he saw that there was a section focused specific for dads (or non-pregnant partners). The section was 19 pages long. Rather than dedicating a partner to 19 pages, it would be better to include the partner—without the use of heteronormative assumptions—throughout the book. But even this solution would be problematic since there are so many women who experience pregnancy without a partner and continually assuming that one has a partner is also exclusionary.

The Baby Book by the Sears is extremely long-winded and doesn’t just assume but often argues for women being the primary caregiver. In the introduction, it has a small section titled: “Attachment Parenting Includes Fathers.” But the main conclusion is that a father’s role is to “create a supportive environment that allows mother to devote her energy to the baby.” While excluding same-sex parents, this quote exemplifies how the book writes about a man’s contribution.

Much further along, the book discusses balancing work and child rearing – something the authors assume women don’t intrinsically want while also assuming men don’t need any advice on balancing work and child rearing. Rather than actually focusing on how to balance the two, the chapter pressures moms to stay home longer, start off as very part-time, start a business from home, bring the baby to work, etc. These suggestions show a disconnect from the reality most people face, especially Americans who have meager legal rights related to childrearing – article about paid leavearticle about pregnancy discrimination. The entire chapter only mentions one’s significant other in a tiny paragraph that says if a mom is helping to earn income for the family, it’s only fair that dad help with household activities… That’s it! There’s so much more to say about this and ways it can be done and navigated, but instead the Sears spent all of their time talking about how a mom should change her work environment and not go back sooner than she has to.

Paid Parental Leave


Obviously Austin and I aren’t parents yet and I’m interested to see how our opinions develop and evolve with time. I’d love to hear others opinions or criticisms about parenting narratives 🙂